One of the top frustrations my female patients confide about is the pressure they are under. They feel the expectations of their family, their spouses, their friends, and commonly, their mothers and mothers-in-law. It's a persistent enough complaint that I am compelled to write this advice to future grandmas.
Don't alienate your daughters. Make friends with her. Deepen your friendship with her. Make seeing you a pleasant experience that brings happiness to you both. In the same way I suggest to my patients that they should make a bucket list of fun they would like to have before having a baby, I think future grandmas should find ways to bond with their adult children that will build a foundation of love and mutual respect. Seek out activities that work on your friendship.
Constantly asking how the treatments are going and checking in on the baby question adds great pressure and stress to your daughter. Leave it alone. Allow your children to give you the information they would like to as they feel comfortable sharing it.
From my perspective as the shoulder to cry on, this approach would help everyone feel a little more grounded.
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Yours in good health,
Rachel Blunk, L.Ac.
Rachel Blunk is a fellow of the American Board of Oriental Reproductive Medicine who has specialized in fertility since 2002. Her practice is located in Fort Collins, Colorado. See more at www.BabyByBlunk.com.